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Postnatal Care: Why is it important for mums

Congratulations on your new baby! As a new mother, you may experience many changes, both physically and mentally. It is therefore important for you to practice good postnatal care and receive necessary support to recover from childbirth as you take on parenthood. Good postnatal care can also help to identify medical and physiological conditions that may occur after pregnancy and childbirth.

Particularly in Asian culture, new mothers traditionally undergo confinement for 30 days, or, up to an extended period of 3 months immediately after childbirth. During this period of post-partum recovery, depending on the culture you belong to, there may be many confinement rules to observe (Read: Confinement Myths), but generally, you can expect to gradually fall into a routine and adjust to your new normal. In the meantime, here are tips on getting the postnatal care in check as you get in the groove with the new addition:

Schedule rest

A family that gets enough rest stays together.

Getting sufficient rest is one of the most challenging things to achieve postnatal. The lack of rest can leave one feeling tired, more susceptible to emotional changes and slower recuperating for your childbirth wounds. Hormones are often out of whack during this period too, so it is important to rest. While you will need to make time for daily activities like eating, bathing (if preferred) and toilet breaks, you can aim for maximum rest by taking short naps throughout the day. As the saying goes “Sleep when your baby sleeps”, many mothers find it helpful to plan rest time around the baby’s sleep schedule.

Eat nourishing foods

Load up on greens to nourish your postpartum body.

Foods that are considered nourishing during confinement varies across cultures and traditions. In generally, maintaining a healthy diet of whole grains, proteins, fruits and vegetables as well as good amounts of fluid intake will give your body the necessary resources towards a speedy recovery from childbirth. Eating well is essential during the postnatal period to allow your body to heal and replenish lost blood and energy. If you are breastfeeding, it is necessary to ensure that you take in at least 2 litres of fluids daily, to stay hydrated.

Take a breather and focus on your wellbeing, new mummy!

Even a 5-min break can do wonders for you, new mum!

In the process of adjusting to motherhood, new mothers sometimes neglect caring about your own wellbeing. It is important to ensure that your postnatal period is a comfortable, happy and healthy one. This may be an overwhelming and stressful time; new mothers will benefit from being patient with yourself and to take breaks during the day to do what you enjoy doing. It can be as simple as reading the news, or, watching your favourite show – dedicating time to yourself can do wonders to your mind, body and soul!

Seek help whenever you need

Grandparents are often very willing helpers – consider roping them in as part of your postnatal care plans!

In order to prioritise rest and your well-being for postnatal recovery, do not hesitate to raise your hands to seek help or accept help from family and friends.  (Read: How dads can help with breastfeeding.) Other than direct latching to breastfeed, others will be able to help you with things like preparing meals, run errands, care for other children at home, or even hold the fort for a few hours for you to have some me time or couple time. Remember, receiving help is less about the inability to cope on your own. It is more about prioritising your family’s needs during this recovery period with a vision on adjusting to the family’s new normal in the long run.

Motherhood takes time to adjust to and sharing feelings and the burden of problems with your family helps tackle them together, and brings you closer together as a family unit.

We hope this simple guide can help you transition into motherhood with more ease. Please feel free to share what you worked for you as part of your postnatal care plans.

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Mums share: Breastfeeding concerns that we struggled with!

Breastfeeding has many benefits for babies and mummies. However, it is a skill that needs to be picked up by both mother and baby. Some may learn it faster than others, but contrary to what most mums think, this learning process may not be instinctive nor is it one that naturally falls in place for some of us. In fact, many variables make breastfeeding challenging for a majority of mothers, even those who are not first-time breastfeeding mums.

Often, breastfeeding is an emotional process. It is the next immediate emotional rollercoaster you ride on after birthing your baby. Do not be surprised if you feel intense feelings from time to time and there is nothing to be ashamed of if you decide it is necessary to prioritise your family’s well being and opting for infant formula instead.

To provide solidarity for mums who may be struggling during their breastfeeding journey, we ask our friends to share about their own breastfeeding woes and how they eventually handled them.

Some breastfeeding mum don’t have enough support

One of the most common encounters amongst our friends is a lack of support for their breastfeeding journeys, largely from extended families, particularly those with whom they live with. Husbands, who may or may not be supportive themselves, may feel trapped between his wife and his other family members.

When members of the household are not equipped with breastfeeding knowledge or unwilling to respect a breastfeeding mother’s decision, it gives rise to tremendous pressure for the breastfeeding mother to “perform” and/or persist in breastfeeding. There may be a domino effect from these pressures which add additional stress onto the new mother.

Some of our friends mitigated the situation by attending breastfeeding courses with their husbands during their pregnancy, and, share nuggets of breastfeeding knowledge with extended family gradually over the course of their pregnancy.

Equipped with breastfeeding knowledge, you can also take the chance to gradually and gently set expectations with household members on how it might be like during breastfeeding, so that they would be mentally aware of what it entails. Adjustments and compromises can be made as you go along, to reach a balance that works for everyone in the family.

Breastfeeding mums believe that they do not have enough breast milk

It can be devastating and stressful for breastfeeding mothers if they experience a delay in milk coming in, are not aware of how little baby actually needs initially or, have to endure opinions of this nature.

One of our friends broke down in tears after trying to express breast milk for the first time, because all she managed was a tiny ring of milk that covered the base of a milk bottle, in addition to having to endure comments that her baby was inconsolable from being hungry due to her insistence to breastfeed.  Unknown to her at that time, the amount of breast that she managed to express is actually just about the amount her newborn baby can stomach.

Newborns only require a very small amount of breastmilk. 

Knowledge gives rise to confidence that we are progressing in our breastfeeding journey. With the necessary breastfeeding knowledge, you are less likely to panic, feel out of control when you encounter situations that may not seem to be in your favour.

Breastfeeding mums endure sore and cracked nipples

Almost every breastfeeding mother has experienced sore / cracked nipples at least once, usually in the beginning of their breastfeeding journey. This commonly happens because baby may not yet have a correct latch, or, when mums have sensitive nipples that suffer abrasion from having to repeatedly

Cracked and bleeding nipples during the start of your breastfeeding journey can be nerve-wrecking for new mums.
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The breastfeeding mother can bleed from her nipples due to repeated latching after abrasion and the baby may even swallow blood from her mother’s nipple. The pain and sight can be scary for a first-time mum, as she struggles with getting her baby fed while riding through her physical pain.

Breastfeeding mothers can apply lanolin cream, nipple relief cream or breastmilk to relieve themselves of sore and cracked nipples.

Breastfeeding woes with mastitis

Mastitis is an infection that occurs from plugged milk ducts in your breasts. Usually, this can be encountered at any point in your breastfeeding journey, especially when mums do not empty your breasts of breast milk efficiently enough.

Symptoms include fever and flu-like symptoms as well as a pair of painful, rock hard breasts. Mastitis may need to be treated with an antibiotic treatment, during which you may have to pump and throw away breast milk within 2 hours each time you consume the antibiotics. Wasting breast milk is a huge source of distress or breastfeeding mothers, who may already find it difficult to provide enough milk for their baby.

Cold cabbage leaves work to reduce milk supply quickly and are very effective in reducing engorgement. They could be used in initial treatment of mastitis, by leaving these cold cabbage leaves on for about 5-10 minutes. As this method is also used by breastfeeding mums who wish to reduce their milk supply, remember not to leave them longer for 10 minutes as some may experience a reduction in breastmilk thereafter.

Having to express breast milk in unsuitable environments

Not all workplaces are breastfeeding-friendly and breastfeeding mothers who need to return to the workforce may not have a suitable place to express and collect their breast milk hygienically.

Several mothers reported that they were required to express their breast milk in the toilets or storerooms. To manage the situation, they suggest procuring a suitable container, which you can sanitize daily, to hold your breast pump, parts and bottle during expressing. At the very least, the surfaces that are in contact with your pump equipment are clean!

Travelling for work while breastfeeding

Many working mothers have to travel on work assignments. In order to continue giving their babies breast milk, they need to ensure that their milk supply does not drop or prevent themselves from suffering infections such as mastitis, breastfeeding mothers have to work around their pump times and/or figure out how to transport expressed breast milk from one country to another.

Our friend, Florinda Tay, felt compelled to share her knowledge on preserving and transporting expressed breastmilk on a work trip in her photo album here: https://www.facebook.com/florinda.tay/media_set?set=a.10156206580292794&type=3

Photo credits: Florinda Tay

We hope that these true stories of breastfeeding struggles can give you some insights on how every breastfeeding mother may experience their own challenges. Hopefully these stories can help support and encourage you on the tough journey of breastfeeding.

We’d love to hear your breastfeeding stories too, share with us in the comments below!

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Oral Motor Development: What Parents Need to Know

Most parents usually look out for gross motor skills development in their baby, but did you know that oral motor development should be observed as well?

Oral motor development refers to the use and function of the lips, tongue, jaw, teeth, and the hard and soft palates. The movement and coordination of these structures are very important in speech production, safe swallowing, and consuming various food textures.

Complex oral motor skills are needed to consume a simple meal like this. Read on to find out which milestones to look out for in your baby’s oral motor skills development.

Oral motor skills are the finest of the fine motor skills we develop as human beings. These reflexes that support feeding at full term begins in the womb between the 28th week and the 37th week of gestation, and are fully developed and established when your little one is three years old. By about five years old, most children can safely eat and drink without choking.

Here are some important milestones for oral motor development that you should look out for in your baby from birth till five years of age.

During gestation, the baby begins to develop the sucking and suckling reflexes. At birth to three months, the baby starts to demonstrate many reflexes to protect his airway. She responds to stimulation in and around the mouth, turns her head toward the nipple when the cheeks are stroked, signalling that she is ready to be fed. She is able to consume breast milk or formula milk using a nipple and coordinate her breath with two to three sucks of liquid before swallowing and breathing.

If you are bottle feeding, it is important to choose the appropriate teat for your baby as different teats have different flow rates and your baby might choke if the flow is too fast or be frustrated if the flow is too slow. New parents, check out the bottle feeding guide to see which teat to choose for your baby!

Choosing an appropriate bottle and teat for your child may take some trial and error. Be sure to check out other tips to make baby more comfortable during bottle feeding.

At three to six months, the baby is able eat rice cereal or pureed fruit and pureed vegetable from a small infant or toddler spoon during feeding. At six to nine months, the baby is able to clean the spoon with her upper lip and eat pureed meats and a variety of pureed baby foods.

When the baby is nine to twelve months, she demonstrates lip closure while swallowing liquids and soft solids. She may attempt to eat small, soft dissolvable solids such as soft crackers and small cereals. At this time, she starts learning to drink liquids from a sippy cup and is able to consume mashed table foods. With her oral motor skills improving during this period, she begins to drink through a straw.

Once your baby is able to coordinate drinking from a straw, you have the option to start weaning her off the bottle.

At 12 to 18 months, the toddler is able to coordinate sucking, swallowing, and breathing patterns for longer sequences. With these improved oral motor skills, your toddler begins to eat finely chopped table foods and is able to bite through crunchy foods such as cookies and crackers. She is also able to move the food in her mouth from side to side as she chews.

At 18 to 24 months, the toddler starts to self-feed with some assistance. At twenty-four to thirty-six months, the toddler consumes a variety of liquids and solids through straws and open mouth cups. At this stage, she moves toward fine tuning all her feeding skills.

Between 36 months old to five years old, the child progresses and starts being able to chew and swallow advanced textures (for example, meats, fried foods, whole fruits) with close supervision. Lastly, she is able to drink from an open mouth cup with no assistance.

The presence and strength of reflexes is an important sign of nervous system development and function. Having poor oral motor skills usually also translates to speech development issues.

Some of the more noticeable signs to look out for include:

  • Mouth frequently hangs open
  • Refusing to eat food that needs to be chewed
  • Gags frequently when eating
  • Has trouble sticking out his tongue or moving it from side to side
  • Drools excessively (past the age of 18 months)
  • Lisps excessively

Hence, should you notice that your child lags behind in the above milestone developments, or exhibits any of the signs, it may be time to make a trip to the paediatrician who will refer you to the Speech-Language Therapist or an Occupational Therapist to evaluate and develop a plan to strengthen your child’s oral motor skills.

Do share with us if you have any concerns about your child’s oral motor development!

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Where to Buy Einmilk Formula Milk in Singapore

Whether we are supplementing breastfeeding with formula milk or formula-feeding, as parents, we would try to provide our babies with the most wholesome and nutritious milk, within our means.

Einmilk offers complete nutrition with its range of formula milk for babies and toddlers.

Key ingredients in Einmilk:

  • Taurine(found in breast milk, helps infants’ liver gain or maintain their weight)
  • DHA and AHA(helps promote the growth of cells in the eyes and brain)
  • FOS(facilitates absorption of nutrients in the intestine and digestive system)
  • Nucleotides(increases metabolism and immunity by increasing ‘good’ bacteria and decreasing ‘bad’ bacteria),

Einmilk formula provides better value to parents and the finest in paediatric nutrition to babies and toddlers at the most crucial stage of their development, helping them along as they achieve their developmental milestones.

Einmilk infant formula and formula milk powder for toddlers are scientifically designed and produced with care, to provide complete nutrition for each stage of child development. Most importantly, you can be assured of its quality as it is made in Singapore.

With Einmilk’s formula milk powder produced in Singapore, you can have peace of mind knowing that you are feeding your baby the best.

 

For those residing in Singapore, you can purchase Einmilk infant formula and formula milk powder for toddlers from retailers near you.

Where to buy Einmilk milk powder:

Developed with cutting-edge technology under the strictest quality controls, Einmilk is meticulous during every stage of product development. From where the ingredients are sourced to how the formula milk powder is produced, the highest level of hygiene and food safety are practised in every stage of the production.

This is the predominant reason why Einmilk infant formula and formula milk powder for toddlers are popular, not just in Singapore, but in Malaysia and China too. With the knowledge that Einmilk is produced by SMC Nutrition Pte Ltd, which is certified by the Singapore Food Agency (SFA), and that the company is also FSSC 22000 certified by SGS, we can be rest assured that our babies and toddlers are drinking quality milk powder manufactured under Singapore’s strict food regulations. Made with all families in Singapore and beyond in mind, Einmilk is also HALAL certified by the Islamic Religious Council of Singapore (MUIS).

Overall, there is strong trust in a made-in-Singapore brand of quality formula milk that is not only good for baby or toddler, but easier on our wallets too. Amidst parents’ growing concerns of increasingly expensive formula milk powders, Einmilk is affordably-price so more parents can provide milk to their children.

For those residing in Malaysia or China, you can purchase online through Einmilk’s website(subject to delivery fees).

If you are still wondering whether to purchase Einmilk from their online store, or, from the shops in Singapore listed above, you can request for a sample first.

 

Where’s your favourite place to buy Einmilk formula milk for your kids? Share with us in the comments below!

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Tips to Stop Breastfeeding and Gently Wean Off

You may have been breastfeeding due to the many benefits for both mother and baby, but have decided to stop. Weaning is the end of breastfeeding and there are many reasons why nursing mums decide to stop breastfeeding.

Common reasons relate to mum’s health, and that should not be taken lightly. Perhaps your breast milk supply has been decreasing, or your baby has to attend infant care, or you simply feel that it is time to transit your baby over to formula milk.

Whatever the reason is, weaning doesn’t have to be abrupt and painful. Gentle weaning can be attempted through these tips:

Don’t offer the breast when your baby is hungry, but don’t reject your baby if he asks for milk.

 

  1. Replace one feeding a day
    If your child is below six months old, you can replace one feeding session a day with previously pumped breastmilk, donor milk or formula milk using a cup or a bottle. If your child has been introduced to solid food, you can replace the breastfeeding session with healthy snacks such as fruits, carrot or cucumber sticks or proteins. Instead of expressing out milk from your breasts, skip the nursing session in order to decrease your supply. Wean gradually by increasing the number of replaced sessions.
  2. Don’t offer, don’t reject
    This tip is more appropriate for older children who can express their needs. By not offering to nurse until your child requests for it, it sends the message that they can still return for milk if they need it.
  3. Start by cutting day feeds
    Babies and toddlers who are used to latching to sleep find it difficult to end it due to the emotional security it provides. Try to cut off day time latching sessions first before proceeding with night weaning.
  4. Distraction is key
    Offer your child something else in place of nursing, like a snack or favourite toy to take his mind off latching. Be sure to provide easy access to fluids and water while doing so.
  5. Don’t attempt to wean during major transitions
    Children find emotional comfort and security in nursing. If you are attempting to wean your child gently, be sure to do it at a time where there are no major changes to his schedule i.e. moving house, changing schools, or, the arrival of a new sibling.
  6. Provide an alternative comfort item
    If your child is no longer reliant on breastmilk as his sole source of nutrition, it means that you can start to wean gently by giving your child a small comfort item. This can be a small stuffed toy, blanket or even a pacifier.

Transiting to formula milk? Einmilk is produced in Singapore to nourish infants, babies and toddlers.

Once your child is weaned, you can replace breast milk with either fresh milk, UHT milk or  formula milk, depending on the age of your child and his dietary requirements. If you are searching for a formula milk that is close to breastmilk, Einmilk formula milk includes nucleotides to promote healthy gut development and improve metabolism.

Did you wean your baby from breastmilk to formula milk powder? Share some tips with fellow mummies in Singapore so they know that they’re not alone.

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Baby’s Brain Development & Milestones: 0 to 1 year old

Did you know that babies grow tremendously in the first year of their life? From helpless newborns to learning how to sit, crawl, walk and talk, the first 12 months is full of milestones for your baby.

This list of developmental milestones will help you see if your child is on track or if there could be possible developmental delays. If your baby is premature, use their corrected age instead.

Birth to 3 months old
In these first three months, your baby will spend most of their day sleeping, drinking and crying. At birth, their eyesight is poor and the world seems like a big, noisy and scary place. Your voice will be the one that is most recognisable to them as they have been listening to your conversations from inside the womb.

At about two months old, your baby will be able to figure out that they have some control over their body and start to kick their legs, grasp your finger tightly and even smile when you smile at them.

 Milestones:

  • Smile in response
  • Track objects with eyes
  • Moves fists from closed to open
  • Brings hands to mouth

Activities to stimulate brain development:

  • Cuddle and sing
    Babies thrive on touch and keeping your baby close to you fosters a stronger parent-child bond.
  • Massage your baby after baths
    Gentle touch has been linked to improved growth and better motor development, especially for premature babies.
  • Hang a colourful mobile above their cot
    Babies thrive on sensory stimulation, and a cot mobile aids in their visual development.

Infants and young children love bopping to the beat of music, and music has been known to stimulate brain development too!

4 to 6 months old

No longer a newborn, your infant is now alert and active. Curious about the world, babies love learning about the world through simple activities. You will notice that your baby is learning how to flip and can raise their head when lying on their tummy. With clearer vision, your baby can enjoy toys with complex patterns and colours.

 Milestones:

  • Flips from back to tummy and tummy to back
  • Reaches for nearby objects while on tummy
  • Able to lift head up
  • Turns head towards sounds
  • Babbles to get attention

Activities to stimulate brain development:

  • Play simple games
    Simple games like peek-a-boo or hiding a toy under a blanket encourages your infant to interact with you in a fun manner.
  • Read to your baby
    It can never be too early to introduce your child to the beauty of books. Reading promotes speech and thought development. Start by reading basic picture board books featuring large, bright pictures and be as descriptive as possible.
  • Offer simple toys
    Building a sensory boxcost very little, and you don’t have to specially buy things intentionally for this purpose. Look around your house for items that you can use to stimulate your baby’s sense of smell, touch, sound, sight and taste.

Reading is a good habit that can be cultivated from young

 

7 to 9 months old
Your infant is becoming more mobile and if he hasn’t started crawling yet, he will soon. One of the most exciting moments of this stage is that your baby can have his first taste of solid food. His gums may begin to ache and your baby may be drooling more often than usual.

Milestones:

  • Says first word
  • Stands with support
  • Sits upright
  • Grasps objects between thumb and forefinger

Activities to stimulate brain development:

  • Introduce stacking toys
    Among the fun activities that a 7 to 9 month old baby can do is stacking. It doesn’t have to be limited to blocks. Books, cups, containers – anything can be stacked up.
  • Offer finger food
    Whether you’re doing traditional weaning or baby-led weaning, finger foods such as steamed broccoli, avocado or teething rusks encourages your baby to self-feed and explore various textures and colours.

10 to 12 months old
Before your baby turns one-year-old, you can expect greater cognitive skills, evolving language skills and a distinctive personality unique to your toddler. Infant development is rapid at this age.

Milestones:

  • Pulls to stand or cruises
  • Stands without support
  • Claps hands
  • Shakes head
  • Waves goodbye

Activities to stimulate brain development:

  • Converse with your child
    Your toddler may be babbling, but did you know that babbling is how toddlers develop communication skills? By responding to your child’s babbling in proper sentences, your child will feel respected and engaged.
  • Outdoor play
    The benefits of outdoor play are immense, and the world is your toddler’s playground. A walk at the park or even to the Zoo can be an exciting trip for him.
  • Teach action songs

Action songs like “Head, shoulders, knees and toes” or “Hokey Pokey” not only teach your toddler about her body parts, but gets her bopping to music. Dancing is a way for toddlers to express themselves, much like singing.

As your baby enters toddlerhood, their reliance on milk decreases. Some mums may wish to transit their baby from breastmilk to formula milk, or supplement their diet with formula milk powder. Ensuring that your toddler eats well and right helps them to meet their growing needs.

What was your most memorable baby milestone? Share it with us in the comments!

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How do parents in Singapore choose their baby’s milk bottles?

Milk bottles with artificial teats are commonly used in Singapore by parents and caregivers who feed expressed breast milk and formula milk to infants and toddlers. Some milk bottles are more durable than the rest due to the material used. In addition to considering the material of the milk bottle, careful consideration has to be put into the types of teats for the milk bottles.

It can be mind-boggling with a multitude of brands in the departmental stores, and each brand has various types of bottles and teats to choose from.To help parents think about which bottle to pick, we asked some parents in Singapore how they chose their baby’s milk bottles.

Einmilk formula milk powder is developed for babies and toddlers.With a stringent quality control at the Singapore factory, each tin has the freshest ingredients to feed our next generation.

  • Anti-colic feature
    “My firstborn had severe colic and we tried many bottle brands before settling on MAM Easy Start Anti-Colic bottle. It has to be disassembled into five parts for proper washing, but it is the only bottle that eased my baby’s fussiness. The extra time taken is worth it. In fact, I can clean the bottle more thoroughly.” says Calista, a mum-of-two. Newborns don’t have the ability to burp by themselves after drinking milk. This makes them feel uncomfortable when air that is ingested is trapped in their tiny tummies. As such, a milk bottle with an anti-colic feature is beneficial for parents of newborns and infants with colic.
  • Bundled with other items
    Mum Alexis uses milk bottles that were part of a bundle she bought. “My husband and I researched on bottle sterilisers and warmers and got a complete feeding set from Tommee Tippee that included baby bottles too. The bottle is easy to grip and my baby drinks well from it; we read that Tommee Tippee teats imitates the baby’s natural feeding action.”

Milk bottles come in all shapes and sizes. Some have a wider base and some are narrow.

  • Pump-to-bottle system
    According to MummyStephanie, she uses an all-in-one feeding system to prevent wastage when expressing milk. “It’s hard work pumping milk and it breaks my heart when the nanny accidentally spills my milk. I switched to Hegen breast pump and I can use the same container to collect milk, store it and there is no more wastage because the nanny just has to warm the milk and replace the cover with the teat. I’m so relieved.”
  • Reputation
    “My mum fed me (with) Pigeon milk bottles, and people around me recommended the same brand too! I bought the Pigeon Wide Neck bottle to try, and we got lucky on our first try! My little boy has no problems using it. We have used it from the time he was born until now!” quips Janine, mum to a 13 month old boy.
  • Baby chose it
    “We had such a hard time finding a milk bottle that Evan would take! We burnt so much money on at least five brands before we struck gold with NUK’s bottle with latex teat!” shares Alaris, mum-of-2.

 Choosing a bottle can be hard work. Once you’ve decided, check out our tips to keep your baby comfortable during bottle feeding. Always ensure that milk bottles are thoroughly washed and cleaned after every milk feed. Einmilk formula milk is developed with the essential nutrients needed to support baby and toddler’s diet so parents have a peace of mind on their nutritional intake.

Parents, how did you choose your baby’s milk bottles? What was your deciding factor? Share it with us and other parents in the comments!

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Mums, this is why your kids act up when you are around!

Mums, does it seem like your kids behave differently when you are around them?

Remember that full-fledged meltdown with theatrical waterworks in the middle of the toy store that was reserved for you only? What about that night when you gave her fresh milk in a cup but she start screaming because she really wanted a bottle of formula milk at bedtime?

Mums, do you notice that your baby “misbehaves” more than usual when you are around them?

Even the best behaved children seem to become utter monsters when left alone with you in the room, yet they don’t “create problems” for other caregivers? Why is this so unfair? Do your babies hate you?Or maybe, they just love throwing tantrums when mummy is in sight?Before sailing on the guilt ship, here’s the silver lining to the dark clouds – this is good news. Yup, plot twist ahead.

According to Karen Dudley, a child development specialist with UCLA, children feel most comfortable expressing strong feelings when they are around their primary caregiver. That’s great news because it means that you are their safe space and they know that they can show their raw feelings without needing to mask them. Awww… nothing like showing their genuine selves in the presence of their safe harbour, which happens to be you, mums!

In addition, a toddler’s memory is improving, so he can remember what he wants more often. This change in behaviour is also partly due to your child’s rapidly developing brain.

The next reason is that young children are learning about social relationships and establishing connections with other people. One of the methods of creating boundaries is to find and test limits. Therefore, if you’re the one who spends the most time with your child, you’re likely the one who faces the brunt of those frequent and intense meltdowns.

Why does your angelic child morph into a huge wet mess so often whenever she’s with you, mummies?

Young children crave attention, and to do so, they will try all means and ways of getting undivided attention from their loved ones, even if it is negative i.e. being scolded or punished for misbehaviour. To alleviate this problem, talk to them and give them some undivided attention, especially if you have more than one child. Try out some of these activities with your child and also ensure your child has adequate naps and sleep, and have a healthy lifestyle which include a good diet of nutrients.

Besides outdoor play, young children need a balanced diet for enough vitamins and minerals to support their growth and daily energy needs. The best formula milk for kids are brands that work well for your children to provide nourishment, complementing their diets.

While understanding that their misbehaviour is a part of establishing boundaries, how we react is important. Responding to tantrums appropriately helps them to feel validated and that you understand the difficulties they face in expressing themselves properly.

Mums, now that you know what your kids behave terribly when you are around, how will you be managing this? Do share this with your mummy friends too!

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Checklist – Things to Prepare for Bottle-feeding

An alternative to direct latching is bottle feeding with formula milk or expressed breastmilk.

Bottle feeding can be a great way for other caregivers to bond with the baby. We have a list of what you should get to make sure that you’re all set and prepared for convenient, fuss-free bottle feeding.

 

Bottle-feeding offers the convenience of allowing any caregiver to feed your baby, anywhere and at any time.

 

At Home

 

  • Bottles

Newborns do not have the ability to burp out excess air that they take in, therefore after each milk feed, they need a helping hand with burping. These days, anti-colic milk bottles are aplenty – some anti-colic bottles have physical valves but unscrew into four or five parts, whereas other bottles have an air vent at the teat to let air out. If you are using the latter, be sure that the air vent faces upwards when feeding your baby.

 

  • Bottle & Teat Brush

Both expressed breastmilk and formula milk contain fats which will cling onto the inside of the bottle. Use a bottle brush and give the insides a good scrub with bottle liquid cleanser and some water.

As bottle teats are narrower, use a special teat brush to clean the entire teat to ensure milk remnants are removed to prevent bacteria breeding.

 

  • Baby-friendly Bottle Liquid Cleanser

Milk leaves an oily residue and it is necessary to wash it off with baby safe bottle cleaning liquid. Select plant-based formulations with no artificial fragrances or colouring and preferably free from Sodium Laureth Sulphate (SLS), a chemical which may cause skin irritation even in small amounts.

 

  • Bottle Steriliser

Newborn babies have sensitive tummies and although you can use the traditional method of boiling bottles in water, you will need to be extra careful to prevent scalds and the bottles will have to be dried on a drying rack.

Steam sterilisers are commonly used but unless they have an inbuilt drying function, the bottles and teats will also need to be taken out to dry separately.

If you have the budget, invest in a UV steriliser which is convenient, doubles up as a drying and storage cabinet and can be used even for cutlery, toys and toothbrushes!

 

  • Bottle Warmer (Optional)

A bottle warmer may come in handy to warm up cold breast milk to a temperature suitable for a baby. However, we’ve found that swishing the bottle of cold milk in a pot of hot water does the trick too.

 

  • Handkerchief

Newborn babies tend to regurgitate a lot, so keeping a handkerchief close by will be useful to wipe up vomit.

 

Bring along a thermal flask filled with hot water to prepare milk feeds when your baby is out and about.

 

Outside

 

  • Bottles

Bring enough bottles for the number of milk feeds, to serve as a backup. You can pour warm water in the bottle, store it in a thermal bag and simply add formula milk before serving.

 

  • Thermal bag

If you are feeding your baby expressed breastmilk, you will require a thermal bag with ice packs to keep the milk at a cool temperature so it doesn’t turn rancid.

 

  • Milk powder dispenser/Breast Pump

You can store formula by serving size into milk powder dispensers for convenience, or use formula milk storage bags. Exclusive pumping mothers will need to bring along a portable breast pump to express milk directly into bottles for feeds.

 

  • Thermal Flask

A thermal flask is handy to have to store hot water for milk feeds when baby needs to drink milk urgently and there is no hot water dispenser nearby. The hot water can be used to rinse milk bottles when needed.

 

  • Handkerchief

Keep a handkerchief with you to wipe up spills, or tuck it into your baby’s top as a bib during milk feeds.

 

Bottle feeding can be a breeze with the right equipment!

 

With the right equipment and this checklist, bottle feeding will be less of a hassle. What is your must-have item for bottle feeding?

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Checklist: What’s in Your Diaper Bag

What’s in your diaper bag? What are the absolute essentials that you shouldn’t leave home without when bringing your little one out? Read on to find out more! We’ve made two lists, one for infants and another for toddlers!

 

Infants need about 6 to 8 pieces of diapers for a full day out.

 

Things to pack in your diaper bag – for infants

 

  • Diapers
    If your baby is a newborn or if you are still unable to tell how often baby poops, bring more diapers in case of emergency! Pack in about 6 to 8 pieces just in case you are caught in situations where baby poops in the new diaper right after being changed. Always pack in extra diapers as an emergency stash too.

 

 

  • Barrier cream/Diaper rash cream
    Infants have sensitive skin and if your baby is on disposable diapers, diaper rash cream should be used to protect your baby from diaper rash. Gently apply a thin layer over clean skin before putting on a new diaper for your baby.

 

 

  • Spare set of clothes for baby and parent
    In the early months, infants tend to throw up or soil their clothes often. Worse, you might be greeted with a poo-nami – an explosively runny poop that leaks and soils everything it comes into contact with. Be sure to pack an additional set of clothes for your little one. If there’s space, pack in a set of clothes for yourself as you never know when your baby may do a poo-nami!

 

 

  • Diaper Changing Pad
    Diaper changing stations may not be sanitised frequently enough, so bring along your personal diaper changing pad to place your infant on top of.

 

 

  • Milk bottle expressed breast milk or formula milk
    On average, infants drink about 60ml to 90ml of breastmilk or formula every 3 to 4 hours.

    If your baby is on the bottle, you’ll need to pack in one or two milk bottles and milk. A handy tip for formula feeding is to store lukewarm water in the bottle so you’ll only need to add powder before feeding.

 

 

  • Teether
    Babies often become irritable when their teeth start to cut through. Having a teether allows them to soothe their sore gums. Alternatively, you can wear a teething necklace so you won’t need to rummage for it in your bag!

 

 

  • Wet wipes and Tissue
    Wet wipes are useful for cleaning up dirty bottoms, wiping down tables, high chairs and shopping carts.

 

 

  • Muslin cloth

A muslin cloth serves multiple purposes – it can be used as a swaddle, a blanket, stroller cover, nursing cover or rolled up to become a little bolster for your baby. It’s light and breathable too!

 

What should you bring out when you have a toddler?

 

          Things to pack in your diaper bag – for toddlers

 

  • Diapers
    For toddlers, pack about 4 to 6 pieces each time you head out of the house as they do not need to be changed as frequently as newborns.

 

 

  • Spare set of clothes
    Pack a spare set of clothes as toddlers tend to run around and perspire a lot. They’re also prone to spilling food and drinks, so extra clothes would be ideal.

 

 

  • Water bottle
    A water bottle to keep your toddler hydrated.

 

 

  • Milk bottle expressed breast milk or formula milk

Beyond a year old, toddlers can consumer other types of milk. Bring along your toddler’s formula milk, milk bottle, lukewarm water if your child is on formula milk. Some parents bring along UHT packet kinds of milk. For breastfed toddlers, parents may nurse in public or bring along expressed breastmilk too.

 

 

  • Snacks
    Tidbits have proven useful in stopping would-be tantrums or to feed them between meals. Make it a point to pack in healthier snacks such as rice puffs with no artificial flavouring, fruits, or simply make some delicious and healthy meat patties!

 

 

  • Toy or book
    It is a challenge keeping a toddler entertained when commuting or when waiting for food at a dining place. Pack in a small toy or colourful book. Try water wow books, where your toddler can paint using a brush filled with water. There’s no mess and toddlers enjoy seeing the pictures brighten up with colour.

 

 

  • Bib
    Bibs come in handy during mealtimes to keep your toddler’s clothes clean and neat. Pack in a bib with a food catcher at the bottom to make clean up easier when you’re outside.

 

 

  • Socks

Socks are not absolute essentials, but most if not all indoor playgrounds for children require that the child has socks on. Ensure that you have a pair of socks stashed somewhere in your diaper bag so you don’t end up paying for a new pair.

 

 

We hope these two lists will make it easier for you to prepare for outings with your little one! Let us know what is one item which you never leave home without!